5ive things better LefT unsaid…

My Lovely Readers,

There are times when the truth will hurt someone, therefore, we choose to say what we think the other person wants to hear without actually meaning a single thing we've said…been in that situation before..?or has someone done exactly that to you?

Yes, the truth is sometimes to ugly to handle but how long can you keep up the lie…?

Some of the common things people say, without intending to actually do them are…

5. I'll call

So he said he'd call…and you wait…and wait…and wait…yet the phone still doesn't ring…you even stare quite menacingly towards your phone, willing it to ring…well..sometimes, people doesn't know how to end a conversation, so the just had to use this line…don't fall for it…don't spend your life waiting for something that isn't going to happen…

4. miss you

When what they actually, secretly think is that "owh, we should spend more time apart so that I get to ogle all the other pweety ladies"…for those who love to use this line, but don't actually mean it, maybe you should just shove the words down your throat the next time you feel like saying it (that is, when you don't mean it)

3. together forever

Maybe his version of forever is a year from now…or maybe his version of forever means until the next drop dead gorgeous gurl bats their eyelashes to him…or maybe he thinks that forever means for-never..but just be careful before you start believing the forever trick…

2. I forgive you

When what he really feels is I will never ever in my right mind forgive you…I just said that because I can't stand hearing you apologizing again and again…but trust me ladies, the next time you argue, they will bring up the matter they said they've forgiven you…what I think is that don't be a hypocrite…if your heart isn't big enough to forgive, let it be that way…no need to pretend.

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I love you

Don't say it if you don't mean it…but a lot of us do just the opposite…it will hurt the person on the receiving end when they find out the three words were just a hoax…sometimes it's easy for certain people to just say this 8-letter word without thinking of the consequences to the person who actually believes them..spare other people the pain of heart ache…

1. That's all for now…take care darlings…
   

   xoxo - Miss A-

Can’t stop smiling when I think of…

My Lovely Readers…

Even though the amount of work I have to complete right now would make Cinderella cringe, but I still have to jot this down…I wanna remember this..like forever..and ever…

I think this shall go down as the one of the contenders for the best moment in my life…it happened in class today…(although today was a roller coaster of emotions, but I shall just share the warm-tingly-feeling-event)

One of my students said out loud…

"You are the best teacher, ever"

Now, I shall assume that the student actually genuinely mean that..not as in "best"..if u know what I mean…

And it really, like really really made my day…coz I'm not exactly the people person type…not exactly Miss Popularity either…but when one of my students gave me such a compliment, I can safely assume that I have delivered to them with the best of my ability…

Macam nak sengeh jer sepanjang hari…

Something as simple as those few words could make all the difference to me…and then I realized that, it is in the art of giving that we receive…

Okay…ai kena pulun buwat kerja yang menimbun…

Take care darlings…

Xoxo

Miss A

just hang in there darling…

My Lovely Readers…

Sometimes, in times of crisis, all we need is a little motivation, someone who tells us, that it's okay… all the troubles will go away, sooner or later…

I'm sure there are times in life that we doubt ourselves…whether we are capable or whether we are fit to do the task that's been given to us…well, my darlings…here is a little something for you to ponder upon, just in case you are having the i-can't-take-this-anymore-fever…you can also check out the videoclip here: on not giving up

 

 

Don't Quit by by Edgar A. Guest

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, 
when the road you're trudging seems all uphill, 
when the funds are low and the debts are high, 
and you want to smile but you have to sigh, 
when care is pressing you down a bit - rest if you must, 
but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns. 
As everyone of us sometimes learns. 
And many a fellow turns about when he might have won had he stuck it out. 
Don't give up though the pace seems slow - you may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than it seems to a faint and faltering man; 
often the struggler has given up when he might have captured the victor's cup; 
and he learned too late when the night came down, 
how close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out - the silver tint of the clouds of doubt, 
and when you never can tell how close you are, 
it may be near when it seems afar; 
so stick to the fight when you're hardest hit - it's when things seem worst, 
you must not quit.

 

Okay darlings, I hope that you feel a little better now…just like I do every time after I read this poem… and whatever you do, make sure you see it through, all the way, up till the end…

 

Xoxo

Miss A

Perplexed for a moment…maybe we should make that more than a moment…

My Lovely Readers…

I came across a book, EVERYDAY OSHO written by Osho and among the pages of this book, he wrote :

"There are people who feel strong only when they are not vulnerable;

but that strength is just a facade, a camouflage"

It makes perfect sense right? Except the second sentence that is…when I read on, Osho believes that being strong and being vulnerable can exist together…now isn't that rather perplexing since being vulnerable means that you risk baring your emotions out in the open and you risk getting hurt at the same time. So, how can a person be strong when they know that they could get hurt in the process? am I making sense at all? i'm sorry if I've confused you , my Lovely Reader but the paradox of strong and vulnerable is too intriguing to ignore…or maybe some of you may have had the experience of having these two emotions simultaneously…do share darlings…

Xoxo

Miss A

My one constant cinta hati…

My Lovely Readers…

Selain dari seorang belog-a-holic, ai juge aderlah footy junkie you know…I am an ardent fan of this one very specific footy club located somewhere on planet earth..duuuhh..heeeheee…Manchester to be exact…nak lagi exact, Manchester United…bukan Manchester City hokeyhh…greatest rival in town…dan ai suka amat biler last Wedenesday Morning, Man U telah berjaya melangkah ke Final Carling Cup which will be held at Wembly on 28^th February 2010…sorry Tevez, apparently your goal tak berjaya mengakhiri penantian Man City selama 34 tahun untuk ke final…

okay…okay…ai know some of you may not understand how people can get so excited about watching a footy game…mungkin macam tu jugak lah yang ai rase bile ai tak paham, mcm mana orang boleyh duduk depan skrin tv, berejam-rejam hanya untok tengok race keta…ape yang besh sgt?

ai memang pencinta lelaki Man U yang setia bangat…disebabkan kegilaan dan kecintaan ai kepada Man U nih, i applied to sambung belajar dekat University of Manchester for my Masters…dan disebabkan kecintaan ai terhadap Man U juga, ai telah dapat duduk dekat Old Trafford…okay…bukan lah ai dapat dok kat dalam stadium tuh, but a place very close by…address siap ader Old Trafford lagi tuh…wooohooo….sebab chenta juga, ai sanggup pegi beli tiket tengok game….bukan murah babe…tapi takper…ikat perot demi nak tengok abang Giggsys dan juge adek Ronaldo maen…yer…mase tu Ronaldo masih maen for United sebelom die berpaling tadah dan curang dengan Real Madrid…sebab sayangkan Man U juge, ai sanggup pegi tengok game sorang2…haaa…tu mg paling tak boleyh belaaa lah…sebab ape taw?ai mmg jenis yang tak berapa suke nak explore tempat yang foreign especially alone…ai tak suke bile kena tanyer direction…and bla bla bla…ai sanggup jalan kaki dari rumah sorang2…pegi stadium semata2 nak tengok Rooney play…and u know what? I enjoyed every minute of it…if I have the chance to do it all over again, I so would!

Jom pegi tengok game Man U versus Arsenal esok,nak tak?

Xoxo

Miss A

Merely a stop...never a destination…

My Lovely Readers…

It's a place where many come.

Some may be running here as fast as they can…trying to catch the one single person that matters most…

But in the end, everybody leaves this place…everyone is just stoping by, a place where they just had to be before they reach their ultimate and apparently better destination…

That is how I can conclude my relationships with relationships….a railway station describes it best..

Xoxo

Miss A

She wants to ignore it but she can’t…she simply can’t

My Lovely Readers…

 

Yup..it's true…there's no easier way to say this but…I have to admit it…

I have become a belog-a-holic…

There..i've said it…

People say that the first step towards solving your problem is admitting that you have one…hahaha…

Fine…fine…so being a belog-a-holic is not THAT bad…anyway..this is just for the sake of updating…

 

Okay, I pwomise entry kali ni pendek sahaja…

When someone repeatedly tells you that you are like this, or you are like that…especially the negative ones…you will tend to believe it..if it is hammered to your ears often enuf…and you will start doubting
yourself…and you will think that,

 

yes… I am like that…

yes, I guess I deserved everything that has happened to me…

yes, I am not worthy of anything good…

yes, there must be something terribly wrong with me…

 

pernah tak anda sekalian rase sebegini?

Saya pernah…dan ia satu perasaan yang sangat tak besh. Full stop.

How do I make it go away? is there an easy solution? If there is, please owh pweety please tell me…

 

p/s: sorry darlings for all the emotional entry of late…please bear with the drama queen..she hopes it's a temporary phase that'll go away…

 

Xoxo

Miss A

spill your heart out…

My Lovely Readers…

 

"Don't Regret the things you've said......

Regret the things you haven't said when you had the chance to..."

 

I'm sure everyone has heard of the phrase above…but how much do we actually practice it in our daily lives? On most occasions, we are just too consumed with fear or with rejection that we choose silence..we choose to bottle up all that we should have said…let me tell you a story that was told to me by a colleague of mine…I wish I saw the drama unravels in front of me…so here goes…

 

Situation: Public Speaking in class (yes, this certain case is gonna make you sit up straight and makes your eyes pop out and your jaws shall drop straight to the floor..no kidding)

 

Girl: I have a problem..the thing is, I think I'm in love with mt BESTFRIEND.. (owh oh…does this spell disaster..or what?) and he does not know that I feel this way about him…I don't know what I should do…

 

Lecturer: Aaaahhh…I think you should tell him how you feel…At least get it out of your system…at least, when you look back, 20 years down the road, you shall have no regrets whatsoever…

 

Girl:But I am scared..

 

Lecturer:It's normal to be scared but it's better to tell him rather than keep it to yourself…

 

Girl: Actually, the boy is sitting NEXT TO ME

 

Erkkkk….serioussssssly???mulut ai ternganga kejap dowh…ni bukan public speaking dah nih..ni public confession…berani seyh minah ni reveal her most private feelings for all to witness…bravo…

You all mesti pernah berada dalam dilemma yang sama kan? To tell or not to tell…so, what do you end up doing? I am proud to say that I've walked the talk..and I am glad I did…kalau you all rase you dah suka bangat kat a certain someone, why not risk it? what's the worst that could happen anyway? Be brave…you'll never know what's in store for you, if you only opened your mouth and told the truth…

Jangan simpan dalam hati yer darlings…

 

Xoxo

Miss A

Single forever…?mungkin

My Lovely Readers…

I have been putting off writing this entry for quite some time..but since it's a Saturday morning and I have a little time to kill, why don't we delve into this topic…so the conundrum this time shall revolves around the M word..no…not Monkey you silly…M for M.A.R.R.I.A.G.E …

For me, right now, dalam zaman dan abad ini, ai aderlah seorang yang amat sangat skeptic tentang perkahwinan…okay…before korang baling periuk belanga kat ai, bagi ai peluang nak bagitaw dolu, nape ai cakap mcm tu…lepas tu, kalo korang still rase na baling periuk belanga, by all means,sila lah baling..ke arah dinding..takkan ai nak suh u all baling kat ai pulax kan…ngeeeheee…

Ai bnyak sangat dengar cerita-cerita ngeri and horror when it comes to this M thingy…banyak lah resource ai…housemate…colleague…friends…

Kes tak masuk akal no 1

They look like a perfect happy family…a lovely mother, a cute husband and to top it all of they have anak yang sangat chomeyl…so, bagi outsider, especially all the single ladies out there, haruss lah ader sekelumit rase envy di sitew…atau kepingin juga hidup yang sebegitu…tapi jangan cepat tepedaya dengan what's on the surface..if we dig a little deeper, there are cracks actually..it turned out that recently the wifey got to know that the hubby actually has another wifey and to add insult to injury, yang wifey sorang lagi tu pon ader anak yang lahir pada bulan yang sama dengan anak mereka..what the effing hell is wrong with this guy man???it is just seriously sick okay…my condolences goes out to the poor lady and baby…

Kes tak masuk akal no 2

Mr X is getting married with his beloved gurlfren..ok..nothing abnormal about that…but what I find a bit dodgy is the fact that this certain Mr X ader juger scandal laen..ok fine..mungkin korang rase itew juga biasa bagi lelaki…the thing is,ader salah seorang dari scandal itew yang sudah sangup menjadi yang ke-2 okay…ai memang tak boley paham lah part ni…apeperasaan bakal wifey die eyk kalo bakal wifey dapat tahu?and let's say lah kan, the situation was
reversed..would Mr X actually be ok with it??ade banyak lelaki yang suka mempertahankan bahawasanya mereka boleyh kawen more than one…ok,fine..tapi you are not even married yet, tapi dah ader yang menanti sebagai no-2?hurmmm..

Kes tak masuk akal no 3

Mereka berdua berchenta bagai nak rak lah…macam dunia ni dieorang berdua aje yang ader…long distance mase berchenta…but that never stopped their love…sangat lovey dovey…so, they decide to get married a quite a young age…they had a baby…but not long after that, bergegarlah arasy…ya betol.sebab mereka B.E.C.E.R.A.I…kesian sgt lah kat the wifey…jadi janda at a very young age…ade baby pulak tu…hissshhhh..tak patot betolll!!ni pon sebab kehadiran orang ke3 juger…

Ok…cukup lah ai bagi tiga contoh kes tak masuk akal kat sini…ader banyak lagi ecceli, tapi ai rase 3 ni je pon dah cukup untok membuwatkan ai skeptic terhadap Men and Marriage…boleh tak, kadang-kadang rase better off tak kawen…kalau tak kawen, takder lah emotional mess kan, betowl tak?ai rase mungkin it is viable…and it becomes more viable if the
society does not condemn all the ladies yang tak kawen lagi when they hit a certain age..mesti masyarakat sekeliling akan berkata-kata…aaaahhh…korang tak yah deny lah…ai know this for a fact okay… like sebowk betowl dieorang nih…boleyh je kan kalau we choose to be
emotionally independent..we choose to be single…we choose not to deal with the sticky yucky mess of heart ache…boleyh kan? Tapi yang orang selalu fikir is :

1. There must be something wrong with her..sebab tu tak der orang nak kat dier…
   
2. Mesti minah ni memilih sangat…
   

   
   

Tak boleyh ke fikir yang they choose to be single…they choose
to be successful in their career…choose to travel and see the world…kenapa tak boley fikir macam tu?

People can actually start by NOT asking the
single ladies, "Bile pulak turn awak?" at kenduri kawen ok? Walau mcm mana teringin sekali pon korang nak tanya soalan itew, please JUST KEEP IT TO YOURSELF…takper, nanti bile die nak kawen tu, pandai lah die jemput..you've heard of wedding invitations, right?kalau tak di invite tu maknanye belom lagi lah, so jangan lah sebowk2 tanye…

Owh pastu kalo korang terlepas tanyer juger…and kalao lah minah tu kate die takder boipren, WAJIB percaya, paham??jangan nak soal2 lagi..JANGAN nak wat2 muka terkezut…jangan cakap "eyh, takkan lah orang macam you ni tak ader lagi"…memang pantang betowl lah…

tapi kadang-kadang jadik ambivalent juger bile rase2 dah nekad tuh…boleyh ke nak grow old sowang2?mungkin ai patot kumpul duit banyaaaaaaaak2 dari sekarang so that di mase tua, ai boleyh check in sendiri kat rumah orang-orang
tua…huuhuuu…tapi yang ai risau, nanti kalau tak kawen, xde anak2 yang soleh and solehah yang nak doakan ai bila ai dah meninggalkan dunia ini…kalau mintak anak kawan2 ai doakan tok ai, aci tak?lagi satu, ai rase kena wat pact dg kawan2 supaya dieorang pon tak kawen jugak..hahhaha…(kate BFF kan…hahaha…abes semua kawan ai tak ngaku BFF dah lepas ni…heeee…) nanti ai nak pegi kuar minum or lepak tengok game dengan siapa? Nanti ai nak pegi tengok movie dgn siapa? Nanti ai nak pegi holiday dgn siapa? Nak shopping dengan siapa?sob sob…

haaa…hambekkk…luahan perasaan di pagi sabtu..hahhahha….havva great weekend darlings!

Xoxo

Miss A

h.o.t & s.i.z.z.l.i.n.g!

My Lovely Readers...

jeng jeng jeng...


aaaahhhh..abang richard gere....


owh..encek jose mourinho...anda kacak amat!!saya dah jatuh chentaaa...


abang george clooney, ai ader kat sini...u nampak ai tak?

yess...i know..wishful thinking...tak salah kan?ngehngeh

xoxo
Miss A